Friday, May 25, 2012


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My Tajik And American Mothers

The author with his Tajik mother
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I have two 61-year-old mothers.

My Tajik mother is the woman who give birth to me. My American mother is the woman who hosted me when I lived in the United States.

And although they were born in the same year, my two mothers have lived remarkably different lives.

My Tajik mother was born when the Soviet Union was trying to revive its economy after the devastation of World War II. Her childhood was full of pain. Like other schoolgirls, when she began school at the age of seven, she also had to work in the fields to help with the harvest. She was told she was building communism. After finishing school, she lived in the village for two more years before marrying my father.

The life story of my American mother, Julia Shermon, couldn't be more different.

By the time that my Tajik mother had two children, Julia was studying chemistry and biology at Hartford College and was enjoying the life of a university student. On weekends, she visited Boston with her fiance.

When Julia married she was 27 years old. By the time my Tajik mother was 27, she already had four children.

Julia eventually had two children: a boy and a girl. My mother in Tajikistan, following the orders of the Communist Party, gave birth to 12 children so she could qualify for "Hero Mother" status. She devoted her life to her 12 children.

In 1970, when Julia bought a car and was enjoying trips to the seaside, my mother was traveling by donkey to visit her ailing mother.
Mumim with Julia Shermon


Now my Tajik mother is retired and receives a symbolic pension. She begins her days working in the yard. She does not know a lot about her children, who live in the neighboring village. In the evening she prays for several hours, asking God to save her children.

My American mother still teaches high school biology. Her husband died five years ago and she has not seen her children for five years. But nevertheless every evening she communicates with them through the Internet. On Sundays she goes to church to pray for world peace.

But despite their differences, both of my mothers are very sensitive women. Julia cries for hours when she listens to news about the death of  American soldiers in Iraq or Afghanistan and attends peaceful antiwar demonstrations.

My mother in Tajikistan cries for hours when she hears about the death of Tajik migrant laborers in Russia. She tells her children not to go to Russia until the time comes when skinheads stop killing innocent people.

Long live both my mothers.

-- Mumin Ahmadi 

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by: Nastya from: Washington
April 29, 2010 19:38
My Russian mother is 72. She was born in Soviet Union. She suffered through the WWI as a child. She worked at tselina during Khrushev's times. She settled in a small and remote Siberian town. She had one child and a wonderful carreer. She was never ordered by the Communist Party to have 12 children because there was never such a an order. Being a Hero Mother was always a choice. Being a career mother was tough, but it was also a choice and a matter of determination. My mother devoted her life to her work. Yet, she sees me at least twice a year.
So, what's the point of this article?

by: Ivan from: Sofia
April 29, 2010 22:29
Yeah, don't go to Russia, nobody wants you there anyway. Go to America, instead, where gay marriages, narcotics and prostitution are legal and widely accepted. If you are without morals, Uncle Sam wants you. To create a liberal democracy with no values, where everything goes.

You can't have two mothers. If you can't choose which one is your mother, then you are ready to be an American - everyone has indiscriminate relations with everyone else, then they raise their children together and they are all inter-related. 40% of Americans are illegitimate, and the divorce rate is 60%. Welcome to paradise.
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by: Mr Green from: Dubai
April 30, 2010 14:42
My friend you will get your greencard. But They won't give greencard to your Tajik mummy. Because she will be public abuse.So you will have to live with your American Mummy for another 10 years until you get your US citizinship.
Good luck I lived in US for 10 years.Believe me.

by: okama from: USA
May 01, 2010 10:07
Nice prowestern article.but Central asian people now who is our real enemy

by: Ivo
May 03, 2010 17:37
I'm sorry, but who's that guy? How did he end up having two mothers? Why should we care? Just what exactly is this about?!

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