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Aleksei Kabanov speaking on the phone on January 9 -- two days before he was arrested for murdering his wife, Irina.
Aleksei Kabanov speaking on the phone on January 9 -- two days before he was arrested for murdering his wife, Irina.
In January this year, Russians were gripped by the grisly murder of Irina Kabanova, a sometime-journalist and mother of three, at the hands of her husband, Aleksei.

To outsiders, the Kabanovs had seemed like a happy, hip, and enlightened Moscow family -- he was the chef at a trendy cafe and the couple was well-known among the city's liberal elite, frequent fixtures at the 2012 election-year protests. By all reports, they adored their children, who were 6, 4, and 2. "They were hugging and kissing them all the time," their nanny, Tatyana Shtefanets, later told police.

But late on the night of January 2, the couple had a drunken argument. The fight grew heated. As their children slept, Kabanov punched his wife, knocking her to the floor of their kitchen. He strangled her with a plastic cord, stabbed her repeatedly with a 24-centimeter chef's knife, and meticulously dismembered her in the family bathtub.

He stashed the body parts in plastic bags and suitcases, hiding them in the trunk of a friend's Skoda Fabia. He then called the police, reported his wife as missing, and began posting plaintive messages on Facebook:

A poster describing Kabanova as missing and calling on volunteers to help look for her.
A poster describing Kabanova as missing and calling on volunteers to help look for her.
January 6
Friends! My wife Ira has disappeared. She left the house on the morning of the 3rd and didn't come back. The police are looking for her. But there are no results yet. The police are saying that she'll come back and everything will be fine. But the more time that passes, the less I believe that things are fine. I should explain that she left after we had an argument. I can believe almost anything, but I can't believe that she would leave without a word. If there's anyone among our mutual acquaintances who knows what's happened to her, simply tell me that she's alive.

Kabanov's posts inadvertently sparked a volunteer-driven manhunt in Moscow and St. Petersburg. On January 9, he gave a video interview to RIA Novosti, speaking calmly as he sat in the family kitchen, children's voices ringing out in the background. "I can't imagine any situation... where Ira would leave without telling me," he said. "Where she would leave her kids behind."

WATCH: Aleksei Kabanov talks about his 'missing' wife.

Two days later, police discovered the hidden body parts. (A police report horrifyingly notes that Kabanova's head was found in a bag from Detsky Mir, the children's goods superstore.) Aleksei Kabanov admitted to killing his wife, was promptly arrested, and placed in pretrial detention.

What's ensued since then is a bizarre legal battle in which Kabanov, 39, is preparing to defend his actions as a "heat of passion" murder and not, as investigators allege, a premeditated crime. If he is successful, that nuance could shave years off his sentence -- and leave many spouses wondering just what their own mates might be capable of in the heat of a marital dispute.

Perhaps seeking to bolster his case, Kabanov has just granted a rare interview to Svetlana Reiter of the website, and the results make for fascinating reading. Kabanov, for example, explains how he came to find himself brandishing his Kasumi chef's knife on the night of the murder -- a fact that could be used to argue the killing was planned. Kabanov normally kept his knives at work. But on the morning of January 2, his boss informed him that the cafe had gone bankrupt and told him to pack up his things. (She also gave him parting bottles of liquor, which went on to fuel the argument later that night.)

Asked by Reiter what they fought about, Kabanov gave this response:

Money and the children. Ira said that if we got divorced, she would take the children. I was divorced twice before I married Ira, and both times the children stayed with their mothers, and this third time I absolutely was not ready to discuss a situation where the children wouldn't stay with me. Ira didn't work, it simply wasn't in her to work: she would go to a job and by the third day either she had quit or been fired. She was suffering from depression as a result. I didn't think at all that there was any need for her to kill herself at work; but she thought she should, and would find another place, and after three days everything would end in tears once again. Any situation where Ira was going to keep the children was completely out of the question.

The last thing he remembers, Kabanov adds, was Irina threatening to run away with the children the next time he left the apartment. "I just snapped," he says. The next thing he knew, he was sitting on a chair in the kitchen, smoking a cigarette and holding a knife, his wife lying dead at his feet.

Kabanov has reportedly undergone extensive psychological testing at Moscow's Serbsky Institute -- the country's main center for forensic psychiatry since the Soviet era -- and been deemed sane. He himself argues that even the act of dismembering his wife "was a perfectly rational thing" in a small, crowded apartment, where his children were soon to wake up. He hastens to reiterate, however, that he was not in his "usual state" at the time:

... I left the bathroom for a minute, and then before I had to go back in, there was a long pause of horror, and I understood that that was a normal physiological reaction. And when I went into the bathroom and started to do something, I had the sensation that I was watching a movie... a very frightening, personal one, but a movie all the same.

The car where Kabanov had hidden his wife's dismembered body.
The car where Kabanov had hidden his wife's dismembered body.
His attempt to hide his wife's body, he says, was motivated by concern for his children. They had lost their mother, he reasoned at the time, and shouldn't lose their father as well. Even now, his lawyer, Mikhail Menglibayev, says Kabanov's desire to mount his "fit of passion" defense is motivated by his desperation to get out of jail and see his children again. "He understands that no one is going to care for his children the way he does," Menglibayev says. (The oldest child, Kabanov's stepson, has moved to Israel to live with his father. The two younger children now live with Irina Kabanova's mother in Ukraine.)

Kabanov bristles at the suggestion that he may serve as many as 15 years in prison, saying he considers a seven- or eight-year sentence "fair...under the circumstances." But he says he's not trying to avoid punishment:

When I was committing the crime, I didn't have any kinds of thoughts about the fact that this was my wife, the mother of my children. A woman. I wasn't thinking about what was going to happen next. Nothing in my life had ever hinted at a tendency toward this type of violence. For a normal person, knowing the picture of events, it all looks nightmarish, but this nightmare wasn't planned.

Kabanov is expected to go to trial later this year.

-- Daisy Sindelar

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